When they can’t find a heartbeat


a poem for women grieving a miscarriage or infant loss
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October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day—a day to remember babies lost through miscarriage or infant death. I wrote this poem five years ago, during a time of overwhelming grief. I have never shared it before. I pray these words are a comfort to others who have lost babies they have deeply loved but barely held, or never met. You are not alone.

 

Still

You’re

slipping

 away,

so whisper-soft I barely notice.

 

Until I do.

 

It’s the absences,

suddenly present,

sneaking

up on me—

 

nausea, relenting;

exhaustion, easing;

future, fading—

 

and I know you’re

slipping

away,

gone,

and I am alone

in this body.

 

And yet

I still feel you,

tucked safe inside,

your tiny heart beating

like hummingbird wings,

though I never saw it.

They never could find it.

 

But you know,

and I know,

that you still live

inside me,

and always will,

and it will be our secret

until the day,

together,

we die.

 

a comforting poem for women who have suffered miscarriage, in honor of infant and pregnancy loss remembrance day


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My forthcoming book, When God Says, “Wait,” ministers to women who are waiting—including those enduring the painful wait for a child. You can sign up for updates from my ministry here, and preorder the book here.  


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Author: Elizabeth Laing Thompson VIEW ALL AUTHORS POSTS

Elizabeth works from home as a writer, editor, diaper changer, baby snuggler, laundry slayer, not-so-gourmet chef, kid chauffeur, floor mopper, dog groomer, and tantrum tamer. She is always tired, but it's mostly the good kind.

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  • Gloria Baird October 13, 2016 at 2:14 pm

    Brought tears to my eyes….and heart…sweetly remembering our losses!! I’m sure this touched many, many others!!
    Thanks, again, for sharing your heart in such a gifted way!!

    • Elizabeth Laing Thompson October 13, 2016 at 8:16 pm

      Thank you, Gloria. I know you understand this kind of loss on a much deeper level than I do. I so admire your faith and courage!

  • Danielle Whitaker October 14, 2016 at 3:57 am

    Thank you so much for sharing such an intimate part of yourself. IT spoke to the heartache and the grief I felt losing 3 little ones. But also that as mothers we still carry them with us. Aftee my last loss my 2 year old at the time said…Mommy..your baby is in heaven? After I said yes he looked at me and said…And holding God’s hand. I never did tell him anything about that. I am grateful for God’s comfort and reminders that they are in the best of hands.

    • Elizabeth Laing Thompson October 14, 2016 at 5:37 pm

      Oh, that brings tears to my eyes. What a beautiful image. I’m so sorry for your losses. I know you hold those babies dear. We never forget.

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